Man Crushed After Girlfriend Suggests an Open Relationship, Signaling Red Flags to Him and Cue to Leave

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    I tried to hold it together, but I couldn't. I started crying, which I never do, especially in front of her. I told her that it felt like I was just a placeholder—that maybe she was using me for financial security while looking for someone "better." She looked shocked and said I was overreacting and being dramatic,
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    r/AITAH • 23 hr. ago [deleted] AITA for breaking down after my girlfriend suggested an open relationship?
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    I (34M) am 5'3" and have always been self-conscious about my height. I'm aware that it holds me back in the dating market to some level. I've worked hard my entire life to prove myself and now have a successful career, making more than enough to live comfortably.
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    I've been dating my girlfriend (26F) for two years. She's stunning, charismatic, and confident-everything I've always wanted in a partner but never thought I'd actually have. Early on, I asked what she saw in me, and her response was vague but sweet-something about how I'm "kind and stable." It was enough for me to believe this was real.
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    But recently, she suggested we try an open relationship. She said she wanted to "explore freedom while staying committed emotionally." It hit me like a truck. I asked if she wasn't happy with me or if I wasn't enough. She laughed nervously and said it wasn't about me, just that she feels too young to "lock herself down."
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    I tried to hold it together, but I couldn't. I started crying, which I never do, especially in front of her. I told her that it felt like I was just a placeholder—that maybe she was using me for financial security while looking for someone "better." She looked shocked and said I was overreacting and being dramatic,
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    that it wasn't about replacing me, just "adding more to our dynamic."
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    At that point, I told her if she wanted to explore, she could do it, but not while in a relationship with me. She looked stunned and started to argue, but I told her I needed space and asked her to leave.
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    She's been texting me saying I'm being unfair and making her feel bad for being honest about her needs. So, AITA? I'm considering breaking up. This hurt me so much, genuinely.
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    UPDATE: I broke up with her over text. She was really mad and called me crying, but I was 100% sure, so I broke up with her regardless.
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    • Briiiiiiyonce 23h ago • NTA. A suggestion of an open relationship especially after 2 years is complete grounds for a breakup. Either she has someone in mind already or she's wanting to window shop for more options in the
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    future. I'm so sorry, OP. That would absolutely break me as well. The fact that she started to argue and victimize herself is also very telling. She's trying to make you seem like the bad guy for holding her back. If she wants an open
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    relationship so bad out of the blue after a 2 year relationship she can find someone who wants an open relationship.
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    CivMom 23h ago • lol she though she could be honest about her needs and that you should ignore yours to give her what she wants? Is she always this selfish? You deserve so much better. Absolutely NTA. Text her now and move on.
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    Secret_Sister_S... • 23h ago • NTA She's basically asking you permission to cheat, and not have to give up any perks of the relationship. Most of us would have felt exactly how you're feeling. Let her go; it's better to be single on your
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    own than alone in a shell of a relationship.
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    SnooSquirrels9... • 22h ago • Please leave, instantly
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    _Dredge 23h ago • NTA! She definitely already has someone in mind and is going to cheat or already has. Dump that toxic relationship and move on!
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    Haunting React... • 22h ago • she was only shocked because you told her you saw through her bs. She thought she could manipulate you and did not expect you to be astute to the situation. watch to see if she starts displaying darvo technique.
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    johncate73 22h ago NTA. You gave the right answer. She can explore all she wants, but she can't also be in a relationship with you.
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    You are not being any more unfair by wanting a monogamous relationship than she is being unfair by trying to impose an open relationship on you. Say sayonara to her and find someone who better fits your own needs in a relationship.
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    Chemical-Ad63... • 22h ago NTA. Even without the back story, she wants to bang other dudes while you wait around for her. Nope. Tail lights
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